Should I jump off the hill? What if I murder Prince Harry and go hand in hand with Meghan? Will the people of Sussex adopt me as their Duke? Why every drop of water sounds like it’s gonna give me a heart attack? Why all eyes are staring at me? what’s the problem with this world? Can’t they just live in peace?

Wired, isn’t it?

Well, these aren’t the queries of a psycho killer admitted in the mental hospital. These thoughts bubbling in the brain of the rarest Myers-Briggs personality type are as normal as a polar bear walking on the street of Russia. 

For the beginners who haven’t showered yet under the quietness of INFJs, let me help you dive into the pool of core principles of this unique personality type.

INFJs cover only about one to two percent of the total population. They have always been misunderstood due to their own complexities.
Mood swings, daydreaming and easily losing social battery are some of the most visible characteristics of them. But deep down they carry the diverse combinations of qualities which are both strange and applaudable.

Looking back, when I recognized myself as an INFJ and found that I was not alone, it was a great sigh of relief for me.

It has always been normal for me to pull out the real face hiding behind the mask. When I was in my teenage, I used to think there were some psychic powers partying in my brain. I even asked my Mom once about the spaceship that had delivered me to this Earth. Ignorance with a smile was all I got. When I insisted for long, my parents were like ” What we’re gonna do with him now? He is done with his life.”

They packed me in a bag and delivered to

the psychiatric.

Although every INFJ has somewhat same qualities, they differ in many extents.

I’m going to list down what I feel. I’m not sure but I think It might be different from other INFJs.

  1. Mirror-Imaging

You see a person eating your favorite food and your mouth welcomes the saliva, or you notice a stranger accidentally hit her head and you clench your fist with compassion. That’s how mirror neurons work. These neurons try to imitate every action happening around you and persuade you to do the same.
                                        In INFJs, these mirror neurons are designed with some extra absorption capacity. As a result, an INFJ’s brain can make an exact replica of the feelings that are floating around it. The worst part that I’ve always been facing is it sticks in my heart and keep stinging until it drains out all of my energy.


  2. The curse of Dementor

In public places, my brain is like”you should walk with your both hands in the pocket. No, wait!!! Try one hand swinging slowly. Ummm no. Abort it!!! You are badly copying J.Bond.Back to our first choice… Yeah! Attaboy!! Now just try to be like a normal person”.

Then when I get home: my brain be like”you shouldn’t have walked that way. You could do better. Why don’t you give a try every day in your balcony?”

One moment I feed on the happiest air in the room, and the next I feel someone sucking those air out of me. Every time I fail to identify that sucker, it finds me more delicious.
It goes forever in the spiral loop. There’s no way back until it’s gone completely exhausted.

3. Hey, how’s the weather?

Small talk; one of the front line enemies of INFJs. If I’ve to visit my relatives or to meet some new fellas, I rehearse to smile occasionally in my head on topics that are meaningless and not even funny.

Hey, what’s up? What are you doing nowadays?
You look fat? Don’t you do exercises?
You look thin? Don’t you feed your tummy much?
You look tall? You must’ve been a big fan of Complan.
OMG!! You look exactly like you.

Seriously??? Why on Earth??????

There’s a term called politeness. People see it as darkness, so they try everything to 💡 it up. They even start rubbing stones

together to deal with it.
We prefer HOW and WHY over WHAT. Our neurons are not designed to take the short route. We talk deep or don’t talk at all.
We want every word to be meaningful and emotionally connected.
I’m not rude, though I’m not gonna rub stones to 💡 up politeness. I can’t help it. 

4. A lover of darkness

Whenever I see some good news on social media or some happy people at the grocery store, I too feel butterflies flying in my stomach, however, my deep intuition doesn’t want these butterflies to live long. It wants the truth behind every mask.

My own intuition has made me an addict to suffering so much so that I celebrate it like 4th of July or 15th of August.

Although we INFJ may look like a normal person with some normal problems, there is always a battle going on between the many layers inside us.



One thought on “An INFJ

  1. Hi Shubhway, today I read all your blogs and realized that I should on my notification for further blogs. So I m gonna do that. It was really wonderful Shubh. Hope to read much better and better and I appreciate ur calm mind which helps u to write such a nice one.


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